This
page is a photographic tribute to my dear mother, Norma
Evelyn Wood, nee Pocklington, who passed away peacefully
in Oldchurch Hospital, Romford, Essex on Monday, 13th
June 2005.
Born into a very poor family, mum was a remarkable lady
who always put others first, even as a child. Her father,
a director of Phillips Electronics, walked out during
her early childhood, leaving the family penniless and
struggling to survive (something I always remember when
purchasing electrical goods). During her school days,
Mum used to give her brother, John a piggy back to school
because his shoes were too small and hurt his feet. This
same 'caring about others' attitude remained with her
throughout her whole life.
My
first memories of mum began three years after the photograph
below, in which she is showing me my reflection in the
mirror. I obviously cannot remember this photograph being
taken but I can remember sitting on her lap in
the living room of number 6, Park Avenue, Barking, Essex
three years later while she taught me to read, and I can
particularly remember struggling with the letter 'e'.
Mum taught me to read before I went to school, a little
before my fifth birthday; something which stunned the
headmistress, Mrs. Biddis.
Although,
in my living memory, Mum did not attend church on a regular
basis, as a child and young lady, she was a member of
the Salvation Army and had a profound Christian faith.
Mum was one of those truly genuine people who did it rather
than just talk about it! Something personal which happened
at the exact moment of her passing brought home to me
just how strong her beliefs actually were. Soon after
I took the photograph of 'Mum's Last Smile', she closed
her eyes for the last time but carried on breathing and
communicating, albeit with great difficulty, for a further
three days. Until that moment, the twinkle in her eyes
was still noticeable and she made jokes to the very end,
laughing at being called, 'Biggles' when she wore her
oxygen mask. At one point, my father accidentally hurt
her arm and Mum said to him, 'Watch it Jeff, you're next
and if you're not careful, when I get there, I'll put
in a word to make sure it's sooner than you think.'
There
are so many memories I could recall here but there is
not enough room, so I will just describe those depicted
in my own the photographs of a very brave lady. Due to
the nature of his business, my father was a world traveller
and during the 1970s, he spent more time abroad than at
home. The photograph of Mum 'Walking like an Egyptian'
was taken at her home in Barking, Essex during a long
period Dad spent in Egypt.
The
visit to Athens was Mum's first ever journey abroad. Dad
was working in Athens and in Singapore during most of
1986, returning home on just the odd weekend. In Late
September of that year, he bought his air ticket to Athens
but then had something more important come up in Singapore,
so telephoned me at work asking, 'Do you want to go to
Athens and take Mum to give her a break?' Two days later
we were flying to Greece. I will never forget Mum's surprise
on our approach to the city. Having never travelled before,
she had fully expected to see rows of housing estates,
just like flying over the East End of London and was taken
aback by the white buildings in the bright sunshine. Mum
was a very intelligent but not well educated lady and
when I explained the situation, relating the ancient buildings
to the geography of the Bible and pointing out the place
where St. Paul had addressed the Athenians, her view of
the city suddenly fell into place. This journey took place
a matter of weeks before a vital heart operation and at
that point, she was virtually knocking on death's door,
yet she insisted on walking to the many places of interest
which Dad had talked about. With temperatures in the high
90s, we climbed the steep hills at a snail's pace, stopping
regularly so that she could catch her breath and she made
it! Having discovered that flying was not something to
fear, she then accompanied Dad on his next visit to Singapore
before undergoing her first life saving heart operation!
Although
not well known in the town, Mum visited Ross-on-Wye often
until she became too ill to travel and over the years,
many of my friends from Ross have slept over at her home
in Essex during visits to London. Mum was always keen
to meet the people I made friends with after relocating
to Ross in 1976 and always asked after those she did meet.
Mum's
passing last Monday has left a big empty space in the
lives of the many people who came to rely upon her over
the years. The many hundreds of Christmas cards she received
every year without fail, since a time before I can remember
gives some idea of just how many friends she made during
her life. Even during her last days of life, Mum demonstrated
her feelings for others. Struggling to breath herself
and well aware that she was going to die, she pointed
to a complete stranger, recovering from an operation in
the bed opposite and said, 'Look at that poor lady over
there.' Mum will be sadly missed and fondly remembered
by those whose lives she touched!
Mum's
funeral service took place at Barking Salvation Army yesterday,
Monday 20th June at 2 pm - the cortege taking her from
her home in Upminster to Barking. She was interred at
Rippleside Cemetery, Barking at 3 pm, with a gathering
of family and friends taking place afterwards, back at
her home. For the first time I can remember, Mum was unable
to prepare the food for such a gathering and food had
to be ordered in from outside caterers. The weather was
hot and sunny and, with black ties exchanged for shorts
or whatever else was available, we tested the waters of
the new swimming pool she never got to use. Mum would
have loved it and I felt certain that she was there with
us in spirit!